Relationship expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D, the author of five books on sex and relationships, including “Sex Recharge,” shares how to beat the seasonal blues by getting back into bed.
Play hookie and make it hot
Go on a date day. Take an afternoon off work while the kids are at school and have a relaxed lunch with a glass of wine. Or, go to a romantic afternoon movie and act like newlyweds again. Why not engage in public displays of affection? Your midday “foreplay” will help you reconnect in the bedroom.
Arouse with random acts of romance
Better romance begins with small sensual touches. A stolen but “oh so sexy” kiss or a hug can last until the sun comes up. Hugs and kisses have been shown to boost the naturally occurring “love” hormone oxytocin.
Fantasize and it’s sure to be fantastic
Tell your partner you had a sexy dream last night with him or her in it. It’s flattering and sure to rev up your partner’s romantic engine. While you’re at it, fantasize about an exotic destination.
Variety is the spice of life
When you’re in a long-term relationship, sex can become predictable. Try a new position, a new location or even experiment with a product like the We-Vibe couples’ vibrator.
Get on the same vibe
Think that a vibrator might intimidate your guy? Think again! According to a recent study, as many as 44 percent of men have used a vibrator with their female partner. Considering this, your guy will likely be open to a vibrator you can both enjoy together.
The We-Vibe is designed for women to wear during intercourse to maximize pleasure for both partners. Small, rechargeable and non-phallic, the We-Vibe’s advanced technology helps couples achieve new levels of shared pleasure and intimacy.